Teen dating older guy
My daughter told me yesterday that she has been dating, a 16 year old boy who is gothic and skips school, for months now. What should I say about this interesting relationship?Thanks for the help, Virginia from Atlanta, GATell her why people date.The only way I would even consider anything like that would be if they are supervised or chaperoned any time they are together. Three years is a big difference when children are that young.If she won't listen get her to talk to a guidance counselor maybe.Tell her what kind of man she should look for when she's older and tell her love is not like in the movies.Also, tell her how beautiful and smart she is everyday because girls need to hear that, especially from their dad or some sort of male figure. Whatever you do, support her decisions and don't criticize. Only support, this doesn't mean just for boys, try to support her in other interests that you think are appropriate in hopes that she will get more focused on music lessons or sports than on the guy.Most of the gothic students at our high school are not into schoolwork or being respectful. They aren't all bad kids, some just want to belong, and this is a phase for them.
(12/10/2006) She is underage & living in your home. If she is already out of control it's going to be a disaster as she gets older.
If she were older, a 3 yr difference wouldn't matter much but a 16 yr old is too old for a 13 yr old! let her know if this boy doesn't want to go 'anywhere' just to be with her, he really isn't interested in 'her', just her body. You get to know him, you can give your daughter a chance with him and if he doesn't like it he wasn't worth it, and they learn moral lifestyles, lets your daughter know she is worth a little trouble, if this boy doesn't think so another one will.
Also, I'm not sure how she has been actually "dating" him and you didn't know till yesterday? After you get to know him tell her YOU will decide if he is good for her or not.
I'm a high school/middle school teacher and this is way wrong. more than likely the girls his age don't want to date him. You are not allowed to go out with this guy, or any guy.
Simply put, a 16 year old boy is looking to have sex with her. If you disobey me, you will be punished." but be careful of the backlash from her.