Dating advice from the
Research does suggest that we are most attracted to people who are selective in who they choose to date.." Playing too hard to get can send the message: "I don't like you." Do you really want to date the kind of person who continues to pursue someone who is sending signals that they're not interested? Focus on putting your best foot forward until you're firmly committed.
Some dating advice suggests that the courtship experience should be approached as a game with the end goal of snagging a partner: Carefully monitor your behavior and the impression that you create in order to win the prize of a committed relationship.
That cautious person becomes irritated with a partner who is reckless and disorganized, and that emotional person is frustrated by an overly rational partner and begins to feel like they're dating a robot. You'll only meet liars and weirdos if you date online. Building the relationship coordination and strategic timing (Re CAST) model.
Many people believe that everybody lies online, a topic I've written about previously here and here.
I’ve lost count of the times I’ve told friends to just tell the truth – pretending not to be too into someone so they’ll like you more rarely works out in the long run.
I’ll finish on a bit of a cliche – but it’s always worked for me: just relax and enjoy it.
If you keep everything light, you will never develop emotional intimacy with each other.
Leave your past experiences and preconceptions at the door, order whatever you like, laugh, listen and just talk about what makes you tick.
There are times when someone with a quality that is very much the opposite of ourselves may fascinate us.
Maybe you're very cautious and conservative and are excited by someone who is spontaneous and unconventional.
Both men and women can definitely be guilty of this – but games are simply better avoided.
Being genuine about your feelings and intentions will set both of you more at ease.